Seven-year-old Sumaiya studies in Oxford International School, Dhaka. When asked 'what do you want to be?' she says she wants to be a doctor.
At her age, Sumaiya knows very little about the activities and life-style of a doctor. But her mother always inspires her to become a doctor. It is too early for her to guess about the pains and pleasures of studying in a medical college, but since her mother, recently also her father likes that she becomes a doctor, she has been dreaming to become a doctor.
Like Sumaiya, many young students are just inspired by their parents about what they are going be once they complete their studies. Parents, in many cases, give them little idea about the joys and sorrows they are going to experience the career they are heading to. Even schools, unlike the developed world, do not take young students to visit various organisations so they get a real picture of the job they are going to do once they complete their student life.
Many parents want to fulfil their unfulfilled desires through their children. They want to see in their children what exactly they wanted to be. Also, many parents want to see their children hoot for some particular professions such as doctors, engineers, MBAs, BBAs without considering the capability and likes and dislikes of their most cared children.
Jerin is a student in a Bangla medium school in Mirpur. She likes to draw always; she wants to be an artist. But her parents never inspire her to become an artist by profession. Like Jerin's, many parents are continuously discouraging their children to be what they actually want to be, rather they impose their own likes and dislikes. In that way, parents are responsible for limiting the potentials of their children.
The number of parents who are encouraging their children to become MBAs/ BBAs more than doctors, engineers is on the rise. Also, parents have started preferring their children study commerce more than science, because studying commerce ensures jobs better than studying science, they think. Those parents are considering short-term benefits and immediate glamours involved with these professions. They are ignoring the benefits that a student may enjoy for studying medicine, engineering, or some other science subjects, even some humanities' subjects like English, Economics that have a very good demand in the long run, if not in the short term.
Parents need to be more and more aware about the demand of age and also about the long-term benefits of different subjects. They need to discuss with their children all these and should show the pros and cons of various professions. They should also consider the likes and dislikes of their children. Probably they should not be in a hurry to impose the aims. Why don't they let them grow independently upto a certain age and decide the aims on their own? Only that way, parents can become more acceptable and credible to them and can become better mentors to their children and can continuously inspire and motivate them to be what they wanted to be.